Is it wrong to seriously not want anymore children. To the point of considering abortion. First of all we have decided we don't want to have anymore children at all. Yes it could change later but with the way we both feel I highly doubt that it will. Since we are young we cannot have any procedures to prevent pregnancy unless we had more children which we don't. So what are we supposed to do? Our views of abortion have changed a lot in the last 2 years. Between being more educated and the experiences we have had we don't feel it is the horrible thing that we thought it to be. We consider abortion one of our options now. I still don't like the idea of abortion being used as birth control but I don't feel that is how it is being used in our situation and others like ours. We can't afford the monthly birth control or the procedures like I mentioned so what are we to do? And everyone knows that no matter how on top of birth control you are or if you use condoms and the like religiously you can still end up pregnant. They are not fool proof. So honestly we do what we can but we don't have control over it. Which is why I am wondering if it is seriously that wrong to want an abortion if we both feel so strongly and have decided together this is what we want? I know that it is our decision and no one can tell us what to do but it really irks me that others can't understand where we are coming from.
Other reasons for the no more children decision is that in the next 2.5 years of school I can't be pregnant. I will have to put school on hold until the baby is born because I can't be pregnant during clinicals. Seems selfish not to want to wait but also who would be able to take care of the baby like he/she should be taken care of if I am back in school and he works all the time? Plus we are struggling to afford everything for the three of us as it is now adding a baby would make things beyond tight and both children would suffer. I decided long ago that I will not have children if I cannot provide their needs and some wants comfortably. We are doing alright and making it through with just one right now and after I graduate it will be a little easier but having another would drastically change that. Plus this world is not in the shape it was. Between the poverty, fighting, and criminal activities I don't know that I would want to subject another child to that anyway.
All in all it is our decision and no one else will affect what we decide I just can't comprehend why others think it is so dire wrong to have an abortion. Again my opinion and we all know what those are like! We are all entitled to our own opinion but we should have enough respect for others to see that they feel differently and accept that. It's not like we are making you do something we want. =)
Just needed to vent! Have a good day everyone!
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